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Teen Pregnancy - How Parents Can Make a Difference

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By Logan Levkoff, Ph.D.

Zina’s decision is a common one for pregnant teens. In the backlash of feminism, and with the extreme ambivalence in our country toward abortion, more young women are keeping babies they didn’t intentionally conceive. For teens who do not terminate, only 2% give their babies up for adoption. But Zina says that she wouldn’t do anything differently. “These babies are a lifesaver in disguise,” she says.

Zina’s mother, Catherine, does not feel the same way. “We were shocked to find out that Zina was pregnant. We expected her to know better and we definitely expected that she would terminate. Zina is ruining her life. We will not support her on this.” Zina has since left her parents’ home and is living with friends.

 

Why Is Teen Pregnancy an Issue?

Bill Albert, Deputy Director of The National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy, says that we have had 15 years of good news, and now, we’ve become complacent: teen sex rates have decreased, teen contraceptive use has increased, teen abortion rates have decreased, and until now, teen birth rates had decreased. Without a crisis, we had forgotten that there was a need to be proactive. We need to continue to put our financial resources towards prevention.

It would be remiss of us not to consider the role that abstinence-only education plays in teen pregnancy, too. Evidence has proven that abstinence-only programs are ineffective, even though over $1.5 billion has been funneled into them over the last decade. Abstinence-only education fails our children because it does not prepare them for a time when they will make a decision to have sex. Though abstinence is certainly the best option for many teens, it is unlikely that all teens will abstain from sex indefinitely.

In addition to misinformation or the lack of information presented in these educational interventions, “What appears to be on the rise is teens keeping their babies/continuing their pregnancies,” says Elizabeth Casparian, Director of Educational Programs for HiTops. “There continues to be a huge stigma attached to pregnancy termination and a great deal more attention paid to adoption and being a teen mother.”

 

Another Scenario: Teens Raising Children

But while teen pregnancies are far from ideal situations, there is no rule that teen mothers are incapable of raising happy and healthy children.

Annie is now 20 years old, living in Seattle, with her two-year-old son. Upon finding out she was pregnant, she says that she wanted to influence someone’s life for the better. Annie’s parents were surprised, angry, but eventually supportive. Annie’s mom, Sandy, says, “I didn’t want her to have this baby. I wanted her to make another decision. But she wasn’t going to change her mind and I wasn’t willing to lose her or my beautiful grandson.”

Annie acknowledges that it was tough: “I didn't realize what I was giving up, how much harder it would be to go back to school, what the relationship with my boyfriend would turn into. I have always thrived on whatever is the most difficult. I think that, subconsciously, maybe I set myself up for this because I just had to take the hardest route so that I could have the greatest success in the end.”


Readers' Comments

Kelly Forster, kenosha, WI 10/11/08

Kelly, Kenosha, WI 10/11/08
My 13 year old daughter just informed us that she has had sex with a boy from her school who is also 13! She snuck him into our home while we were asleep. They had unprotected sex. This is ripping our family apart. I took her to the doctor for a preg. test but the nurse said it was really inconclusive becasue it's too soon so we have to wait a couple weeks and hopefully she will get her period. She also has to be examined/tested for STD's as the young man has had sex before. Her father and I have spoken to her about sex many times as well as her counselor so she knew what the concequences could be. She also says she may do it again with him! So now we have to put her on birth control, at 13!!
She says if she is pregnant she would concider keeping the baby... I am not willing to raise another child! We do have a 26 year old single daughter who may be willing to raise it. Has anyone ever been in this situation? Would that be a good idea? Also do I let her walk around 8th grade pregnant? Should I pull her out and homeschool her? I have family in another state she could go live with until she has the baby. Her reputation is shot already as her entire school knows about it.
What's really sasd is that all the girls and boys talk about having sex. I have read it on her myspace page. I don't think most of the parents have a clue. This boys mother had no idea he was sexually active.
I would love for my daughter to spend a day with another teen mother who is trying to raise her child to see how difficult it is but I don not know how to arrange that either. Any adive would be appreciated!!

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