Question:
I have a 17 yr old daughter who will be 18 in 3 months. Recently I was using her lap top and looked in the history. I found some porn sites some sex advice sites etc. I know my daughter and her boyfriend are sexually active, and my daughter is on birth control pills and she says that they use condoms. I have seen the sex advice sites before, but I'm not entirely sure that she was the one looking at the porn sites. I also have a 14 yr old son, or it could be her boyfriend.I would like to talk to her about this, but I don't want to make her angry for looking into her computer history, and If she is the one looking at this stuff I can't imagine how she'll react, I am extremly distrubed by this. Please give me some advice as how to handle this.
Thank you
Answer:
ParentingTeensOnline expert, Logan Levkoff, Ph.D. , is a Sexologist and Sexuality Educator. She answers:
You have to assume that your daughter will be upset that you didn't respect her privacy - especially if it was her laptop. If you do speak to her, tell her that you understand that you shouldn't have gone through her history but if the computer is one that her brother uses, you want to make sure that he is being computer-safe. Tell her that you saw some adult sites, and while it is normal to be curious, you need to determine if her friends were viewing the material or her brother. As for being disturbed by the pornography, you can share your feelings with your daughter. Explain why it bothers you, but allow her to voice her thoughts, too.